I've often wondered which side of a decision you should argue for. I've often noticed that when you try to advocate one possibility the person choses the other.
I put it down to cognitive dissonance: The more you advocate, the more the person who is making the decision argues for the other possibility. The person then assumes that (s)he is taking up this argument because it is correct, and that they actually believe in it. Otherwise why would they be arguing it? So their brain, in order make a short-cut in the argument, assumes that it is on one side.
So if someone asks you for advice be like an elf. (Refer Lord of the Rings) Don't tell them the way you think they should do it, but tell them the pros and cons of both possibilities, attempting to enlighten them. In this way you will hopefully avoid them taking up a position against you.
(However, this principle only applies to 'grey areas'. Don't try this when someone's in sin. Tell them they're wrong if they are wrong. But what is grey? Mmmmm I think i've opened up a whole can of worms.)


I'm thinking I should write a book: "Running up stairs: Why people studying at canterbury university during a power crisis will get fit."

Yay! I got my fire staff delieverd today! Its gonna be waay cool! I love fire twirling\dancing.
If you want to see a couple of photos of me doing it in the past, check out these: 1 2
I think there are a couple of other photos there as well.


cye!